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This series of articles on approaching women looks at different scenarios I’ve faced when starting conversations with attractive women and how I’ve dealt with each one. Each article will talk you through the scenario, the approach itself and what happened next. Finally I’ll explain what I could have done better.
Unlike other companies, we don’t make up approaches to make us sound more experienced. And we certainly won’t polish the results to make us sound better; what you read here is exactly what happened and I’ll be perfectly honest when I mess things up.
No man can get every woman he approaches, and to claim to be able to is marketing nonsense of the highest order. Anyway, you’ll probably learn more from my approaches that go badly than you will from my success stories.
2 Really Bad Approaches
Today I thought it might be fun, a little embarrassing and hopefully motivating for you to hear about a couple of my complete disasters with women.
Sometimes you approach a girl, do nothing wrong and she still reacts badly. Sometimes there’s nothing you could have done. Sometimes it really is her problem not yours.
This isn’t the case here. These approaches are just plain bad. So if you’re feeling brave, cover your eyes and read on.
Approach One
It was a long time ago and I was on a night out in my native Southend. I had just read The Game and decided that a prop was a good idea for a night out.
My prop selection was bizarre to say the least. I didn’t opt for a cool hat or a tie that girls could play with – I went for a little pot of bubbles, the ones you blow. I would love to be able to explain the logic behind it, but I cannot:
Doug: Hello!
Girl: Oh hi.
Doug: Do you like my little pot of bubbles?
Girl: Erm yes they are ok I guess. Why do you have them?
Doug: I thought they would be fun.
Girl: Ok fair enough.
Doug: Do you want to see them in action?
Girl: Go on then…
Doug: Look, they float around for ages.
Girl: Oh my god the bubble exploded in my drink!
Doug: Ah yes. Sorry. I’ll buy you a new one.
Girl: Yes please. And then you can leave me alone…
No no no – Doug what are you doing? Blowing bubbles around a crowded bar is absolutely tragic. Moving swiftly on…
Approach Two
I had just started to get into approaching women in the day (what the PUAs call daygame) and I saw a really cute girl outside a lingerie shop on Oxford Street:
Doug: Hello there.
Girl: Hello!
Doug: I wonder if you can help me with something.
Girl: Ok.
Doug: I need to buy some lingerie for my friend’s girlfriend. He’s out of town and I said I’d do this for him as a favour. Could you could recommend something?
Girl: What, from this shop?
Doug: Yes.
Girl: What size is she?
Doug: Erm… I’d say around 12.
Girl: Ok I’d go for something classy – that’s what I’d want {starts to walk away}
Doug: Oh great. Actually you seem really fun. I wonder whether we could hang out?
Girl: Why?
Doug: We could maybe go for a drink?
Girl: I don’t think so.
Doug: Ok nice to meet you.
It makes me cringe a little to write this. My opinion opener wasn’t the least bit convincing and the girl blatantly thought, “Why the f**k are you asking me? If you want to know about lingerie ask a shop assistant…”
Then my attempt to spin the conversation into a date was premature, and about as smooth as a Stoke City counter attack.
