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In this article I am going to give you some great online dating tips for how ask a girl out when you are online dating.
We all want what we can’t have. There’s a Bentley showroom in Berkeley Square which I walk past most days. Knowing I can’t have one of those cars makes me want one so much more.
Just seeing a queue outside a restaurant somehow makes me want to go in!
I went to the new Westfield in Stratford the other week and the clothing brand Hollister had a very clever strategy for their store. They made it look like a club; they had an incredibly attractive woman standing outside with a clipboard, loud music and a queue. I mean this was a CLOTHES SHOP and people actually queueing and some were turned away. They were tricked into believing something inside was amazing because they couldn’t just have it.
Make Her Work for You
You need to adopt a similar strategy when going for a date with a girl online – make her believe she has to work for it, that she can’t just click her fingers and have you. Instead of just asking her out (which gives her power) ask her out on the condition that she gets a certain question or vetting procedure right. I like to use riddles or personality tests:
I would like to ask you out straight away but there are some pretty dangerous characters out there and I need to ask a few vetting questions first: If you had to save three things from your house as it was burning down what would they be? What is the most special thing about your best friend? If you could have dinner with one person in history, who would it be and why?
The questions should be interesting to answer and not serious or overtly personal. Once she has asked one series of questions you can be really cheeky in your second message and say:
Ok almost there. You are doing well. You just need to answer one final question for you to be categorised as fully safe. If you absolutely had to choose, do you prefer Sunday mornings or Saturday nights?
Arranging the Date
Once she answers the second question you can then arrange the date. Keep the logistics simple and drop the banter:
Ok congratulations you passed. I could do Tuesday at 1 or Friday at 5 in Soho. Let me know which works best for you.
You have made her jump through some hoops in a jovial way, showing you aren’t some desperate guy gagging for date and also that you have good social awareness to bring some light banter to the dialogue.
Some girls will tire of the game, but they are the ones who wouldn’t have agreed to the date had you just come out and asked them. So have some fun with it. She thank you, because the last thing she wants is some loser guy who’ll jump at the chance to date any girl who’ll have him.
