Be Cool with Girls
If you want to be cool with girls, you’ve got to do two things.
1. Try to be cool. First of all you’ve got to talk about cool stuff, show ambition, show confidence, show that you rate yourself and show that you’re cool. You’ve got to demonstrate leadership and authority. You’ve got to make the girl aware that she’s in the presence of a guy who has his shit together. You’ve got to make sure your strongest qualities are there for everyone to see. You’ve got to make her think you’re a guy worth chasing, worth fighting for.
2. Don’t try to be cool. At the same time, you’ve got to show that you don’t take yourself too seriously. You’ve got to be self-deprecating. You’ve got to show that you’re SO cool, you don’t have to make a big deal about it.
So we have a conundrum. We’ve got to show that we’re cool, without showing that we’re cool. We’re going to get there by boasting.
The Pros and Cons of Boasting
Pros: Boasting is good. It shows quality and ambition and confidence. It shows the girl that you value yourself and that you expect other people to value you. It shows the girl that you’re proud of your strengths, not embarrassed by them.
Cons: But boasting can seem arrogant. Worse, it can be boring. Worse still, it can sound like you’re compensating for something – if you really were a cool guy, would you be making such a big deal about it? Does the truly rich guy tell everyone how rich he is? Or does he keep his wealth under wraps, safe in the knowledge that he’s got everyone in the bar covered?
So how can we boast, but get away with boasting? What’s the solution to the conundrum that I mentioned in the first section?
The Solution – Boast Outrageously
The ultimate way to be cool with girls is to boast, but boast outrageously. Your boasts are going to be so over-the-top that people will assume you can’t possibly be serious.
This is a fantastic tactic: you’ll make people laugh; your boasts will be forgiven (because they will go full-circle and seem self-deprecating); and, crucially, you’ll still get your point across that you are a winner, a big deal.
You’re probably wondering what sort of stuff to say. Well here are some outrageous boasts that I’ve used when talking to girls in the last few weeks. I love using little routines like this because, in addition to helping me look cool with girls, they make me laugh. And once what you say makes you laugh, you’re well on the way to making the girl laugh.
3 Examples of Outrageous Boasts
Please don’t copy these boasts. A) you need to find something that makes you laugh and B) they are really stupid:
I’m sick of these love songs that are about losers secretly admiring the girl: “oh she never takes any notice of me…”, “she only wants the bad boy with the car…”, “she doesn’t even know who I am…” Why don’t they ever write love songs from the point of view of the successful guys, the guys with the cool cars and the starter jackets? You know, so guys like me could have something to relate to…
I saw that film Limitless the other day. You know the idea that we only use 20% of our brains? Well it’s about this pill that allows you to access 100% of your brain. This guy takes a pill and gets to see what it feels like to be me for a few hours…
I am so hungover today. I reckon I’m operating at about 40% of capacity. God, this is what it must feel like to be you all the time…
So when you’re talking to girls, have a play around with some outrageous boasts and see what happens. They sound ridiculous on the page, as I say, but you may be very surprised with how well they go down. And do leave comments with any that you find work particularly well.
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