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All of the online dating research we have done tells us that personalising your first online dating message gets a better response than sending out a mailshot.
If you’re extremely time-poor, your best strategy is still to fire off the same message to thirty girls. But if you have a little more time you can really increase the response rate to your online dating first message by making sure it’s personalised to the girl.
Online Dating Message Compliments
Having said that, you don’t need to write a totally different message to every girl. The best way to go about it is to write a standard online dating first message with maybe two or three areas which you can personalise to her profile. Here are some compliments which can be personalised:
You have such a wicked smile in that picture of you <insert activity>…
You seem to have a great sense of adventure; you are loving <insert activity> so much. I think you’d be a fun date…
You have a great sense of style; I particularly like your <insert accessory>…
So it would read something like:
You have such a wicked smile in that picture of you dressed in a cat suit… You seem to have a great sense of adventure; you are loving the Great Wall of China so much. I think you’d be a fun date… You have a great sense of style; I particularly like your choice of hat on the pub golf crawl.
This shouldn’t be too time-consuming and it shows the girl that you have bothered to look at her profile and that there is something specific about her you like. As a final note – don’t be too creepy with compliments. I know you want to get her attracted to you, but you’re still just an online dating username to her for the time being, so hold off mentioning her sexy legs or nice long silky hair until you know her a bit better.
